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I am new here & not quite sure how to do this but am trying something new. Hoping it helps. My son, who is my only child is moving to Vietnam in 6 days. This all came about very suddenly. He just graduated from college & came back home to live with me in May. All was going well until 2 months ago when he told me he was going to teach in VN. I was so not prepared for this & was hoping he would change his mind. But that isn't going to happen & I am struggling. I cry daily...in secret for the most part. I don't want to ruin this for him. I have an SO. We live together & he has 3 grown children & he has been there done that but he really can't relate. My son is and always will be my world. The fact that I won't see him for a year or more is killing me. I just need help managing the intense sadness. It feels like a death. I am curious to know if there are any others with this type of empty nest situation. And I am so hoping to get advice as to how to get through this. Thank youHi Newmie,Just wanted to welcome you here and other posters will come along with better advice, I aren’t thinking clearly myself at the moment. One thing I have learned is to ask if you can skype and text, I learnt that it’s best to say you miss them as well, I was worried about putting guilt on my daughter but worded in the correct way and because your son knows you and knows you want him to be happy won’t take it the wrong way. To know you are missed means a lot. It feels like a death as we have to grief the situation. I have an old child, a daughter, so like you she was and is my world, I never would imagine she would live hours away from me. You sound like a great parent whom your son will miss I’m sure.
I am new here & not quite sure how to do this but am trying something new. Hoping it helps. My son, who is my only child is moving to Vietnam in 6 days. This all came about very suddenly. He just graduated from college & came back home to live with me in May. All was going well until 2 months ago when he told me he was going to teach in VN. I was so not prepared for this & was hoping he would change his mind. But that isn't going to happen & I am struggling. I cry daily...in secret for the most part. I don't want to ruin this for him. I have an SO. We live together & he has 3 grown children & he has been there done that but he really can't relate. My son is and always will be my world. The fact that I won't see him for a year or more is killing me. I just need help managing the intense sadness. It feels like a death. I am curious to know if there are any others with this type of empty nest situation. And I am so hoping to get advice as to how to get through this. Thank you