Empty Nest Moms

Empty Nest Moms AND Dads! => Empty Nest.."What's Next" for you?? => Topic started by: haidyl on May 20, 2018, 01:37:03 AM

Title: What really matters in life to you now as you are aging?
Post by: haidyl on May 20, 2018, 01:37:03 AM
When we started our family, nothing else mattered apart from our kids. They occupied almost every sphere of our lives. When they left, it got us all to square one. It was time to turn over a new leaf. Yes, their welfare matters but right now we are focusing more on ourselves and overall health. How about you?
Title: Re: What really matters in life to you now as you are aging?
Post by: Beth75 on May 24, 2018, 08:23:04 PM
At this point in my life, I am trying to focus on self-development. I think many of us mothers tend to put our own interests on the back-burner in order to take care of our children. After they left I felt an emptiness that I have since realized can only be filled by taking care of myself. Now that I am focussing on myself, I read a lot more often and I have also taken up painting!
Title: Re: What really matters in life to you now as you are aging?
Post by: Pat on May 25, 2018, 06:16:32 AM
What really matters to me is my relationship with my husband. It has become shallow since our 2nd son left home. It's as though we can't cope as a couple without somebody else in the house to reference.


But there has been a breakthough - only yesterday - when he asked to take a walk with me. I've written about it elsewhere, so i won't repeat myself. But I do think we'll survive - before I feared that we would simply exist together.
Title: Re: What really matters in life to you now as you are aging?
Post by: Marie on June 16, 2018, 04:58:52 AM
I agree with Beth.  I think that, as mothers, we completely focus on our children when they're home and put our own needs, desires, and hobbies on the back-burner. 

I, too, am focusing on rediscovering myself.  I'm taking up hobbies I didn't have time for before, like reading and knitting.  I'm focusing on taking better care of my body and my mind.  I'm also starting to focus on rekindling some old friendships.  When my kids were home, it was harder to make time to get together with friends who mean a lot to me.
Title: Re: What really matters in life to you now as you are aging?
Post by: MerryMe on June 18, 2018, 12:03:08 AM
What really matters to me is my relationship with my husband. It has become shallow since our 2nd son left home. It's as though we can't cope as a couple without somebody else in the house to reference.

I'm also struggling with this problem but my husband is slowly opening up to me and our conversations are becoming longer. I'm a believer now on the saying "time heals everything". I was impatient before because I miss talking with somebody when our son left home.  Sometimes we have to give space to someone we love and that person will remove that space after he or she is ready to reconnect.
Title: Re: What really matters in life to you now as you are aging?
Post by: 4am coffee on June 25, 2018, 11:48:03 AM
Making every minute count for something. It did before, but time was focused on the children. Now it's just us, and re-prioritizing how you spend your time can be a challenge sometimes.
Title: Re: What really matters in life to you now as you are aging?
Post by: haidyl on July 22, 2018, 06:52:17 AM
I completely agree with you all. For me, the most exciting part of this journey is when concentrating on self-actualization with the aim of becoming a better person. There is nothing as exciting as when you are beginning to become better by overcoming your flaws.