Empty Nest Moms
Our "Senior" Empty Nesters! => Our "Later Years"...What we've learned as we've aged => Topic started by: Melee on April 16, 2018, 11:18:49 PM
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I think one of the most important things that I've learned over the years is that true love is real, so don't settle, no matter what your age is. True love is real even if other people don't believe in it. True love is real even if it takes some of us much, much longer to find it, while others seem to find it straight out of high school, or even earlier in some cases, and grow up and marry one another.
When I was younger I was in love with someone, but things didn't work out, so I decided to get with someone else. At least I wasn't alone, right? Wrong. Just getting into a relationship to avoid being alone didn't make me happy, and I had to learn that the hard way.
Even if someone finds it necessary to forgo true love in favor of something more practical and realistic, going that route is hard to do. I've learned that true love is real, and it's worth waiting for.
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Well said @Melee I agree with you 100%. I had a similar experience to you when I was younger and was a single mom for a long time. I did have a close friend now and then over the years but I knew from the start than none of them were "the one". I even doubted that "the one" existed. Then, in my late 50s I met him and I sensed early in our friendship that he was different. We live close to each other and we talk about living together and/or getting married one day. But there's no rush. True love IS real and IS worth waiting for.
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Well said @Melee I agree with you 100%. I had a similar experience to you when I was younger and was a single mom for a long time. I did have a close friend now and then over the years but I knew from the start than none of them were "the one". I even doubted that "the one" existed. Then, in my late 50s I met him and I sensed early in our friendship that he was different. We live close to each other and we talk about living together and/or getting married one day. But there's no rush. True love IS real and IS worth waiting for.
Hi Berta, I love this post of yours. So... early in your friendship you sensed something was different? Would you be willing to share a bit about what sorts of differences you sensed? I like that you say there is no rush, and it's really great that you live close to each other. How nice!
When I was younger, I thought I met "the one" but I was too immature for a relationship with him, even though he was younger than I was. He seemed so wise for his years. I, on the other hand was a very late bloomer. Late bloomer or not though, love let itself be known to me at that point, and I knew that I knew that true love is real. Even though he and I are not together, I know the love that we had for each other was authentic.
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What a lovely post. I'd like to believe that true loves and soulmates are real, though I'm not sure if each of us can find one in our lifetime. I believed that I had found the right person when I married, but many things happened along the way that made me question it.