Empty Nest Moms
Empty Nest Moms AND Dads! => Our Empty Nest => Topic started by: noodle on January 01, 2019, 04:32:09 PM
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My sons have been back for Christmas and New Year's, and this week one will fly back to his school and the other soon after. The thought keeps popping up that they're finding their parents more boring the older they get. I get that; I used to prefer hanging out with my friends over seeing my parents. It's natural but still, what a bummer.
What do you tell yourself when you know your kids will visit less and less often?
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So goes the circle of life. I see my son treating me like I cant be trusted ( like cutting something).. he has to take over like I am an idiot.. I want to scream! I think they do start thinking they know more than us. They see us mess up (me anyway) because my eyes are not good, so he thinks I am slipping! It hurts to see them pull away for sure. My son is biting at the bit to get up and gone and my heart aches like what else can I do to make him comfortable and not want to leave so bad, but it's normal, right! :dunno: Yes I know it is.
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:big hug smiley sign: I know it's super hard to embrace that feeling. I try not to let it get to me because there is literally nothing I can do to control it. All I can do is control my response to the situation. I know my children love me, but I'm probably last on their list of considerations - which, while crappy, is inevitable.
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When my daughter was in college, she preferred hanging out with her friends over us. We knew this was natural, but it still hurt our feelings some.
We've always been close, but during her college years and the first year of her marriage, we drifted apart a little. We've decided to have a weekly family dinner, which is really helping us get closer again. I hope your sons will realize how special you are and continue to visit when they can. Hang in there!
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Our younger son flew back this morning. Since he's quiet it's not like we heard him much, but now that he's gone the house feels hollow. What helped today is getting an unexpected call from a friend and playing with the cat that we're watching for the next month. It was great reading everyone's replies!