Empty Nest Moms
Empty Nest "Our Everyday Lives" => Every Day Conversations => Topic started by: Jeanine on June 05, 2018, 06:01:03 PM
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Hi Mary, just wanted to say hi, and see how you are doing! Haven't been posting for a while and trying to catch up. Hope you and yours have been doing ok? Catch us up when you can. :039:
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Hi Jeanine! :039: Thank you for never forgetting me. :big hug smiley sign:
I have been busy busy with the extra cleaning and cooking since my son moved in. He wants out so bad but no where in the near future with his bills... It sure isnt what I thought it would be, all the years of me missing him. We were talking the other day and I said you didnt use to be that way, what happened.. and he said you dont know what I've been thru... yeah, made me feel bad....
Wish we had the money to help set him back up.
Now, Jeanine, where have you been?
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Good Morning Mary! sounds like you have been kept pretty busy. I'm sure one day your son will get back on his feet and into his own place. Hope his life is starting to settle down a bit for him? (and hopefully yours too! Don't wear yourself out)
As to me, I've been around. Not sure where the time is going but it sure is moving by fast.
Went to Savannah last month with my sister to meet up with our brother and his wife, sibling reunion. :)
Heading to DC Monday for the week with the grandson and his mom. Safety Patrol trip, she and I are some of the chaperones. Never been so should be interesting!
Next month hubby and I along with our grandson (yearly summer trip with him) and planning on going to the St.Augustine area (Crescent Beach). We usually go down to the Keys but that is a long trip from here so decided to try a bit closer (little less then 3 hrs. compared to 7, hubby drives slow!) After that school will be back in and summer over with and he'll be almost 12. Lordy I do wish time would slow down just a bit! :blue weird smiley:
Well you take care of yourself and pop in when you can. Good to hear from you. :tinypinkflowers:
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Good that you are enjoying life, Jeanine. That's how it's suppose to be.
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Hi Mary and Jeannine! I just wanted to say hi, been awhile! Neale
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Oh my goodness, so good to hear from you!!! :039: My question is how are YOU? Where are you? Please update us!
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Hi Neale! Good to hear from you and it has been awhile. :039: Read your other post, sounds like you are having to make a lot of adjustments in your new place. Hang in there, after a while you'll bound to feel like you've lived around there a long time.
Did you find another teaching job yet? Hope you will get settled in a place you'll like for a long time to come.
I'm sure you'll enjoy your trip to Spain for your daughter's wedding! Seems like just yesterday that she moved there. Take lots of pictures that you can share with us and have a great time!!
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Hi, I've been in the house for 3 months now and I'm still having a major adjustment with my move...I still have trouble dealing with my kids living so very far away. I'm thinking that maybe down the road when I stop working to maybe move to Spain and at least be near Lauren, if they don't ever plan to move here. My son might move to Canada for a job.I can't live so far away from my kids, kind of is depressing to me especially not getting to celebrate holidays with either of them. :-( Not sure if I chose the right place in Florida to move to. Pretty much everyone is much older than I am and married or at least not single/living alone. In the meantime, I don't have a new job yet, more stress, I've applied to quite a few jobs but haven't heard back from anyone yet :-( My one bathroom is being worked on..the faucet/trim is supposed to be put on this afternoon then I can finally enjoy my new bathtub. Hopefully sometime soon after I return from Spain, some friends are going to help me tile around the tub and put in my vinyl strip flooring. But even right now, it's much better than it looked before. I am very excited to be leaving next Tuesday for Spain and Lauren's wedding...I can't believe that she's getting married and in less than 2 weeks?! It's kind of bittersweet because I haven't been able to really help out much like the MOB should be doing...:-( My friends from back home just arrived in Spain today and are having a great time. I wish that I could be there too right now.
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Hi Neale, don't know how long you are going to be in Spain but just relax and plan on enjoying yourself and not worrying about anything! Time to take a deep breath and enjoy being around your daughter.
Sounds like you are fixing the place up some. Maybe down the road when you have had more time to explore the area you can find another neighborhood that you think you might like or be more suited to you and then you can think about selling your house now and making another move? Sounds kind of out there right now but never know. And then you might get more settled where you are at and start to feel more at home. Just give yourself a little more time. You did make a major move from RI to Fl!
I'm sure another teaching job will come along soon, meanwhile, enjoy your trip to Spain and come back here with lots of pictures and tell us all about it!
Take care now.... :tinypinkflowers: [size=78%] [/size]
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I will thanks...just abit antsy to get going on the trip..wish I could be there now. I'm leaving next Tuesday and return on the 2nd. The adjustment here has been more than I expected..so many changes I've had to go through and still dealing with like that car accident. I miss being so close to the beach.. But I can't wait to see Lauren and Adrian. My friends from home arrived today in Madrid and are enjoying it so much!.Do you think it's normal to feel how I do about my move? Thanks!
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Sounds perfectly normal to me. You made a big move so just give yourself time to get adjusted. I'm sure when you get your new teaching job you will get more settled. Maybe you can start looking around for different 'groups' to join where you can meet new people in your area.
Meanwhile, enjoy your trip! Sounds like you need it. :smileyholdingflower:
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Oh yes it takes time to adjust to the new environment and the new lifestyle. I'm happy for you though because you have a lot of good things to look forward to!
Did you move to north, middle or south Fl?
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Hi Mary! How have you been lately? Getting settled down any with your son home? Hope the weather has been good for you down that way, we've been getting a lot of rain this summer so far. Guess it's better then a hurricane coming our way!
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Thanks Jeanine, sometimes especially lately I've just been feeling quite overwhelmed with all that's happened and missing my other house. Sometimes I wonder if I should have tried to have a house built instead of going into an existing one but they say that these block houses are safer. I was hoping that coming here I'd feel better than the house and place where I lived...just not feeling it yet. I was also hoping that there were a bit more younger people living here or at least "Meet Up" groups around here like there are back home, but really nothing. Hi Mary! I hope I have a lot more good things to look forward to...been more challenging than anything so far. I live in Sun City Center, is that far from you? I haven't driven a lot since the accident and then when my job ended early. So glad and happy for you that your son is home with you!! It's just so nice to see their face and hear their voice!! Jeanine, I didn't think that you got so much rain down here at this time of year...the thunder and lightning is incredible..my cats are so scared of it with it being so loud and close by. I'm almost done packing and definitely could use the trip to get away and see people I know too!! My friend will be watching my house and my kitties..she lives across the street and down 3 houses.
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Oh honey you are so new you must give yourself time to meet people. They are there and you will meet them!!! I am a person that does not like change so when I first move it takes a good year before I start to feel comfortable.
Oh Jeanine and Neale, having my son home after all these years has been a challenge. he didnt come back like he left. We are having to get to know this new person.
Neale, you are not that far from me. Maybe we can arrange something in the near future!!!
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Hey Neale, this is and unusual rainy summer, it does happen sometimes, you just never know when. The weather has been kind of crazy for a while now. Just hoping we don't start getting anymore 'disturbances' in the Gulf or Atlantic any time soon!
It's good that your friend lives so close by and can watch your kitties for you. I know that will make you feel a little better about livig them.....Have fun!
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It is really weird weather here..and the thunder and lightning are so different than back home..my poor kitties aren't used to it yet. My friend and I do this for each other, saves money..and especially because we're so close..like 3 houses away, across the street.
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Hi Mary! How are you doing? How are you enjoying having your son back home? I so remember when my son Chris wasn't communicating for almost 3 years.....heartbreaking. Then all of a sudden he showed up at my former home last October and what a surprise that was! I was in shock! Since then we talk about once a week..and I'm still so grateful to have him back. I know that I don't get to see him in person but I couldn't be happier for how things are! Do you go do things together? They definitely change since when they were younger. Hope all is well, write when you can!
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:039: I am here. Been dealing with a sick pup the past couple months. She just had surgery the 17th so thank God is recovering.
My son is standoffish. He sticks to himself mostly, on that phone! :dunno:
You are right, they are different. I see the decisions he is making with his money and want to scream. At this rate he may never be able to get his own place!
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Hi! I hope she keeps on healing..that must have been scary. It's hard sometimes to figure out what our kids are thinking or planning to do with their future. I feel like I'm more often here to just listen to him and I guess sometimes he actually takes my advice!? Does he have any plans on going anywhere? Is he working while he's at home?
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Oh yes, he has worked since he got here. He has always carried a job. But he came in with such debt, that unless he gets that taken care of he cannot afford to move out and according to him it's horrible to live with his parents... :dunno: but he has his own ways! Like he tells me often, he is a grown man now! :017:
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It is hard to catch up with debt sometimes. I know my son has some cc debt. At least he's working and working toward the goal of getting his own place, that's great! You can understand how he feels having to move home but I'm sure he appreciates having a home to get to stay in while he's figuring out how to move on! It's temporary for him and I'm sure you just love having him home!! When Chris was home last October, I just couldn't get over the idea that each morning I could see him sleeping in my home again, even though it was temporary. It helped me feel much better!
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I have to hold back from hugging him. He is standoffish so I cant but yea I am so glad he is back in my life.. He has me running in circles. I hear other son's that do for the mom but this one seems to think I live to wait on him, but after losing him once you can bet I'll do it. He has changed so much because my old son would never treat me like this.
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I wonder if our sons realize how important a hug from them is to us...I remember, "walking on egg shells" for a little bit when Chris came back. It's also probably harder to have them living with you than not living with you, like my son. Chris is the one who always calls and he wants to give me one of his computers too..sweet. He also knows that I'm trying to get a job, he's really kind about that..keeps making me feel good even though I feel awful not having a job yet.
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That's good that your son considers you like that. My son let Mother's day pass even though this was the first one in 9 years that he has been in my life. Then 2 weeks later I guess his conscience got to him and he got me a flower and said it was for mother's day. That or he wanted to honor his dad for Father's day so he felt he better..who knows! I just know this young man is not the same young man he was before he got with those crazy family!
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That was so nice to get the flower for Mother's Day...I don't think I've received anything for quite a few years from Chris...not even an ecard...Chris supposedly doesn't have an email address...don't get it. I have received Mother's Day gifts before..a few years ago. I love getting his phone calls...much more than my daughter.
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How are you healing, nvgt16? The last time I was here you had been in a terrible wreck. I hope you're feeling much better! How do you like Florida?
MaryB., I'm not excusing your son, but I think men just don't think about those things like women do. I have a fantastic husband, who would forget to do anything for his mother if I didn't prompt him. He loves her very much and would do anything for her, but about the only birthdays he remembers are our kids and mine. I know my daughter reminds my son about Mother's Day so he doesn't forget. Don't get me wrong, I think my husband and son should remember on their own, but I don't believe it means they don't care.
Of course, you know your son better than I do though.
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Quiet Abode, you could be onto something because my husband never shown my son how to honor me, as I did him... but with him staying with us, this year, after all the years of estrangement I cant help but think it was intentional. Kinda hard not to know it's mother's day if you watch any tv..
We have been going thru so much with him, and gone in debt even, and then this morning he said something that sent chills up my spine, he called his X his 'wife'. I thought if we have gone thru all of this and he end back up with her, well... I can only shake my head. One child.... my only child... :(