Empty Nest Moms
Empty Nest Moms AND Dads! => The Grieving Room => Topic started by: Lyndish on June 11, 2017, 06:28:27 AM
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How can I explain to someone that grieving doesn't just stop? For context, we lost someone close to us last year and a family member wanted to know why my husband and I were still thinking about the person who had died, less than a week after the funeral. She said we should have moved on by now. (We were working with the executors, which didn't help on the moving on part.)
We've currently been trying to keep the person away from grieving relatives to avoid a repeat of the last time this happened where she made comments about how much the widow would be living it up on insurance, at the funeral. Is there any way to get through to someone like this about just how hurtful they are being?
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People are rude rude rude! They are everywhere too. I dont think we can escape them on this earth! I'm sorry you went thru that. Know it is them being jerks.. I learned to hold back my skeleton in my closet, of my son's estrangement, because of that reason right there.. People feel compelled to tell you how you should feel or what you should do, even though you didnt ask. Sometimes just talking helps ease the pain, but choose wisely who you confide in so as to not get criticized and hurt further...
:cute group hug:
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I'm sorry, but this sounds like a relative who shouldn't be invited to too many family functions. However, family is family, and I do believe that maybe you should sit this relative down and have a long talk with her about how you're feeling.
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My husband and I tried sitting her down for a chat last time. We were told we were being silly and no one minded. This was at a time when half the family weren't speaking to her because of exactly what she had said, and we'd been asked to keep her away from the parents of the deceased.
Anything we said was met wioth complete denial that there was anything wrong with what she was saying. I honestly don't know how to get through to someone that oblivious.