Empty Nest Moms
Empty Nest Moms AND Dads! => Empty Nest and being Single (again) => Topic started by: JustUs2 on January 26, 2019, 02:32:02 PM
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I've mentioned on here before that my son and his wife might be heading for divorce. I'm still hoping they'll work things out and no one has filed for a separation yet or anything. Still, I want to be proactive in keeping a good relationship with my daughter-in-law and I desperately don't want to lose easy access to my two grandchildren. Right now I see them at least once a week.
To the divorced members, how did you handle his parents afterwards? Is there anything you wish your former in-laws had done to foster a better relationship between you and them?
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I wish they would have been mature adults.
The best anyone can do is keep being mature, nice and hope everyone else is too.
Too many times it doesn't work out that way, and it's sad.
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I'm not divorced but I have friends and family who are. One of the key things is keeping your opinion to yourself and not saying anything bad about either parent - especially not in front of the children. Whatever the in-laws say always seems to get back to the other party and it severs the relationship.
I know it's hard, but try not to fret about this so much. Your son and daughter-in-law are still together and things may very well work out. Try to stay positive if you can.
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I actually haven't seen my ex-son-in-law since my daughter divorced him, and definitely not a word from his parents. I don't foresee us having to interact anytime in the near future, either. If I did have to see them, I'd be cordial but distant.
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I always have this notion that should separation or divorce happen, the nature of some relationships are bound to change forever. At the end of it all, it helps to be unbiased, truthful but still respectful. Hopefully, your son and daughter-in-law will be able to settle on a middle-ground.