That's just it though, I treat people different according to how close I am to them. Like I dont give my opinion to people that I am not close to, so my own child or best friends, I do say what's on my mind, and accept they do the same to me. We can banter back and forth, but now with these grown children it seems we are to stop talking freely and treat them more like the neighbor down the street. That's what it seems like in my house anyway. I miss the days of our open conversations. I understood how he was thinking and he knew how I was thinking, back then.