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Treasure:
I have a couple of friends who have been single for a few years now. I always invite them to come to parties and other events, but they seem to steer away from them. I imagine it's because they tend to be attended by a bunch of couples. Is it insensitive to invite them to events like that? I always ask because it seems ruder to not invite them. I could be reading too much into this but I feel like I'm losing them. We seem to be running in different circles now. Is there something I can do?

nvgt16:
I think it's nice that you invite them. I've been single for awhile, most times it doesn't bother me being single but sometimes it does. Where I moved to in Fl., when I go to the pool, everyone is a part of a couple, but they all are a bit older than I am..sometimes it just feels weird. Sometimes they think that because you're single that you have this wonderful, entertaining lifestyle...just not so in my case. Being in a new house, new town, and new state, I'm not comfortable trying online dating because I'm new here. I only know of 2 people who also live by themselves...not sure if I picked the right place to move to. I'm leaving soon for my daughter's wedding abroad and she wants everyone who's coming from the states to get together for lunch one day, everyone but myself in married...so not looking forward to it.

Krista:
Treasure, I think it's nice that you try to include your single friends in your events.  Maybe they feel like third wheels because there are a lot of couples at these parties?  If you have several single friends, you could invite them to parties and let them know that other singles will be attending.  That might make them feel a little more comfortable.

You could also have parties with just your single friends or a, "girls night out."  Sometimes it's fun to be away from your significant other for a bit. 

Treasure:

nvgt16, I never thought about how couples might bother you by asking for tales of your adventures. I'm sure they're trying to live vicariously through you. I can see how that could get really annoying though. I'm so sorry that you don't think you've moved to the right place. How long have you been there? Congratulations on your daughter's upcoming wedding! Where is she getting married? I hope you're excited for everything outside of the lunch. Are they couples that you know or are there going to be a lot of new faces?

Krista, That's what I'm worried about. I don't really know how to help them feel less like third wheels. I would love to be able to invite some other single people but I'm at that point in my life where I just don't know all that many. The couple that I do know unfortunately don't get along all that well. I do love a good girls' night out! Would it be better as a one-on-one sort of thing or would it be okay to invite other married women?

cherie:
Well, I think this will vary, depending on a person. The circumstances are often different; there are empty nesters who are single by choice while others ended up that way through a break up and so on and so forth. Inviting them is quite in order but just as a precaution, I would ensure that the company at the parties wouldn't be uncomfortable for them.

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