Accepting Them As They Are

[4am coffee]

If we have elderly parents, we all need to keep at least one thing in mind: They are set in their ways and mindsets, so we need to accept them for who they are.


If they believe they are right about something but you think they are wrong........they're right anyway. We shouldn't rock that boat in their golden years.

[ava]

You shouldn't rock their boats at their golden years because chances are, you will never win an argument. I think that it is much easier to learn how to communicate with them because in this way, they will feel appreciated.

[MomOfTwo]

Arguing with older individuals will always have bad results. The best way to have a good conversation with them is by letting them speak their minds and we listen to them. I think this is because they think they have lived longer than us and they might also think that they are wiser than people who are younger than them.

[Katy]

I agree with you.  It's really not worth it to try to get our elderly parents to change their opinions.  Oftentimes, seniors do have a lot of wisdom to impart.  I try to remember that my parents have had more experiences than I have.  If I disagree with them about something, I just keep my mouth shut.  But even when I don't like what they have to say, I can usually learn something from their experiences.

[MomOfTwo]

Yes, we can learn from their experiences and their mistakes as well. If we think we can't win an argument with them, then let us win them through our love for them. When they see our care and concern for them, then they usually tone down their defensive behavior.