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Offline Augi

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I think they just want my mother's money.
« on: March 21, 2018, 11:40:42 AM »
My mother is a very sweet lady, classy, funny, extremely intelligent... but mentally fragile. She gave me up for adoption when I was born, but ended up "giving" me to her aunt, therefore I was raised by one of my great aunts. Even though I was not raised by my mother, I have been close to her because my informal adoption was kept in the family.
My mother stayed in constant contact with me, as I did her even though we were thousands of miles apart when I was a child being raised by my great aunt.

Present day, my mother still lives across the country from me. She lives with some family members. She has always adored them, but they have treated her badly.

My smart, intelligent elderly mother was brow-beaten and verbally abused to the point to where she finally had to be declared incompetent by one of her sisters, my aunt. I feel there was a plot to mentally "break" her in order to get her money.

The incompetency hearing went through, one of my aunts was declared my mother's guardian, with control over my mother and my mother's money.

Recently (less than a year later), the court ruled that my aunt was not keeping account of the money properly. And we're not even going to talk about the way she treats my mother, but one can imagine.

It's such a challenge.

I would love to be financially well-off so that I could have my mother come and stay with me and my family so that my mother can live a happy life. I love her for her, not for her money.

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I think they just want my mother's money.
« on: March 21, 2018, 11:40:42 AM »

Offline haidyl

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Re: I think they just want my mother's money.
« Reply #1 on: March 21, 2018, 12:33:46 PM »
Reading through your post, I cannot help but wonder how a lot seems to have changed over the years. Materialism has engulfed people's minds and degraded the true meaning of family. You have the sweetest mum and I pray that your wishes to be with her, will come to pass, sooner or later.

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Re: I think they just want my mother's money.
« Reply #2 on: March 21, 2018, 01:19:52 PM »
Reading through your post, I cannot help but wonder how a lot seems to have changed over the years. Materialism has engulfed people's minds and degraded the true meaning of family. You have the sweetest mum and I pray that your wishes to be with her, will come to pass, sooner or later.


Thank you for your kind words. I do hope that I can find a way to get my mother to come and stay with us. She is a kind lady and deserves to be treated kindly, not yelled at, and probably physically abused. Yes, materialism is something that people diligently seek, I guess they do so in order to feel like they are "winning" in life. It's okay to win, but not when you try to hurt someone else to benefit yourself.

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Offline BettyBoop

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Re: I think they just want my mother's money.
« Reply #3 on: March 24, 2018, 07:18:57 AM »
If you have any suspicions that your mother is being physically abused, please get social services involved.  They will keep a close eye on the situation and possibly take your mother out of danger.  No one should ever be physically or mentally abused. 

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Re: I think they just want my mother's money.
« Reply #4 on: March 28, 2018, 03:21:03 AM »
If you have any suspicions that your mother is being physically abused, please get social services involved.  They will keep a close eye on the situation and possibly take your mother out of danger.  No one should ever be physically or mentally abused.

You're right.

It's such a complicated situation. I pray that things will come to the light, no matter how much people try to control things. My only issue is that I don't want my mom to be put in a home (it could be even worse there), which is more than likely where she would have to go if she's taken away from where she is.

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Re: I think they just want my mother's money.
« Reply #5 on: April 04, 2018, 06:37:44 AM »
Update-- So, the court has recently decided to give my aunt another chance to come up with all of the accounting data that they need. A few weeks ago she was very distraught because the court had led her to believe that she was no longer going to be able to be my mother's guardian. When I tried to call my aunt and talk to her about things, she wouldn't answer the phone.

Yesterday she told me that the court has allowed her extra time to get them the accounting records that they requested a month ago. Her take on things is that she should be in charge of my mother's money because if I'm in charge (my mother's only offspring), that I will just spend the money. And I have no doubt that she is sharing that opinion with almost everyone she comes in contact with.

From the beginning my aunt said that taking care of my mother was her priority and that money was not the issue, so I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt. But as I've listened to her talk (just yesterday), I'm feeling more and more like money was, and always has been the issue all along.

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Re: I think they just want my mother's money.
« Reply #6 on: April 13, 2018, 02:57:09 AM »
Update***** Those of you who believe in prayer, please pray for my mother. She had a stroke and is in the hospital. Just days before the final accounting hearing was scheduled...

I spoke to her on April 2nd, we talked and laughed. A few days later I found out that she was in the hospital with a stroke. My aunt is in charge of the medical decisions. That is not what I signed up for when I bowed out of the guardianship.

I called the hospital to see how my mom was doing and was told that they could give me no information because I was not the person to speak to. That has since changed, and now I'm able to call and check on my mom.


I talked to her yesterday and today. She was just able to make incoherent sounds, but she is able to do that, so that's something. The way my aunt was telling me about things, I thought my mom was in a coma. Imagine my surprise when I called last night and the nurse said to me, "Do you want to speak to her?"

Please pray for her.

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