Being nice

[cherie]

Are good manners self-taught? How come being nice doesn't occur naturally to some people? I tried my best to instill these virtues in my kids and it used to warm my heart when (at a young age) they would frown at people who failed to show some kindness.

[CatMom]

Manners are certainly not self-taught. In my line of work I witness a lot of parents reminding their kids to say "thank you" when I've helped them. Kids I can forgive because they are still learning. It's the adults that get to me. There are times I feel like I've bent over backwards to help someone just to be summarily dismissed.


A quick thank you is quite hard for most people. In some situations, like holding a door, I'll say "you're welcome" anyway to shame them. They probably don't even notice, but it makes me feel better.

[Natasha]

My mom taught me to be kind to others my whole life and it became ingrained. By the time I got to middle school, I realized that most people weren't taught the same things I was. I made sure to teach them what my mother taught me.

[MaryB]

You can look around at the amount of narcissistic young people and see they were not raised like us.  My dil does not believe people deserve respect because of their title.. well  Jesus is a title, so is a judge or a policeman and they all have my respect..  so do my elders and  my parents (when they were living) etc..   

[cherie]

It worries me that we are living in a society where everyone lives for themselves. It doesn't harm to be nice and show some kindness but it seems that there are some people that only mind about themselves. It gets really annoying every time I bump into such people.

[NanaBee]

I cannot stand rudeness. It isn't hard to say "thank you" or even just smile an acknowledgment if someone has held open a door for you or let you pass or helped you.


The other day I let a woman and her child cross the road in front of my car. She didn't so much as thank me or smile or even acknowledge it. What sort of lesson is that she's teaching her kid. I dread to think.

[Indiana]

I actually run into more mannered people than not. They tend to be rather quick with it, but they will acknowledge you if you do something nice for them. People also do good, little things for me as well. A quick wave if you let someone in your traffic lane.....a quick thank you if you hold a store door open for them. Things like that.

[cherie]

Have you ever tried to be nice to someone, only to be met with resistance. I once went shopping with my hubby and came across this young man who was struggling to pick an item from one of the shelves. It was going to be easy for any of us to help (we are both over 6 ft) but just as I was about to spring into action, he told me to stop since he hadn't asked for any assistance. Is it that people have a lot to handle these days?

[Becki]

Kids these days are rude and entitled.  They never had to work while in school, never learned to change the oil or tires on their car (that you bought them), do not know how to say "please and thank you" or anything that we do unconsciously.  My parents were of the mind that "they brought me into this world and they would take me out" if I misbehaved or did not respect my elders.  Kids all use the F-word like it is a normal part of speech.  I don't know what we are going to do to correct this in our society.  Lord, help them when we are gone.  Sorry for ranting but this really gets to me.