An Emotional Year

[PattyD]

This year has been quite tough. In March, my dad passed away. He was my hero, and he was always there for his girls no matter what. Every time I visit my mother, I still expect him to come out of his room or off the porch to say hello.


Within two months, my mother had a heart attack, and I was terrified that I was going to lose them both so close together. I don't know what I would have done had that happened. Fortunately, she's doing very well.


I know time is really all there is to help the sadness pass, but once all the arrangements were done, it's like it was all done. No one talks about him, and I don't bring him up because I don't want to upset anyone else. I miss him so much.

[MaryB]

Hello and welcome to the forum, PattyD
My complete heartfelt sympathy over your dad.   I lost my parents 17 years ago and I still miss them so so much.  That is something you live with but never accept..
As far as your child goes, that is emotional too.. my heart goes out to you.  I'm glad your mom is doing well.  I'm glad you found us.   

[Kidless]

Hi PattyD.  Glad you are here.  You need a friend to talk to about your dad.  You must talk about him.  When you are around your family, maybe you could think of a funny story to tell or a "do you remember what dad would say about that?"  Try it and see what happens.  In the meantime you can talk to us.  We are great listeners. 

[Shel45]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have both of my parents still and can't imagine a time without them.


Talk about your dad if it makes you feel better. They might be feeling the same way but don't want to make you sad.